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Should I stay with my boyfriend

Last year my partner was sexting with this girl on social media. He proudly told all his friends and family about it and I caught him and confronted him. His brother even encourages him to not be loyal. So whenever he talks to his brother I feel on edge. He didn’t meet up with this girl in person but he did message her about wanting her and this was crossing a boundary for me. I considered this cheating. We had a rough patch but decided to stay together. At the time when he cheated, he logged out of his accounts and changed his passwords. I feel as if to this day I still get triggered or something because whenever he changes a password or logs out of an account not I feel some type of way inside. I feel as if I need to quickly go search for someone I can have a relationship with incase something is happening again. (It hasn’t happened again except for that one time). I have a fear of being lonely so I’m not sure if that adds to it too. I keep wondering if this is healthy or normal in a relationship, to keep worrying every time something is changed or logged out. I try to stop caring but it gives me anxiety. It’s my first relationship and we’ve been together for 8 years and we’re both in our 20’s. I feel if we were to break up it would be too much for me emotionally at this point in my life. I don’t know if I could handle the emotional pain right now.
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Yulianna · 26-30, F
you cannot depend on him for anything except pain... cut him off now, before he does you even more damage.

and don't just bounce straight back into another toxic relationship. take some time to recover, to rediscover your true self and your self worth.
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@Yulianna how does one discover who their true self is? I get lonely and bored really really easily
Yulianna · 26-30, F
@Fifidog learn to value your own company, become your own friend, then best friend... don't fall out with yourself! do things that give you pleasure, satisfaction. don't rely on other people.

and as you grow stronger in yourself, you will find that you attract people who will value you for yourself, not just for what you do for them.

it's not easy... but neither is staying the way you are.