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Should I stay with my boyfriend

Last year my partner was sexting with this girl on social media. He proudly told all his friends and family about it and I caught him and confronted him. His brother even encourages him to not be loyal. So whenever he talks to his brother I feel on edge. He didn’t meet up with this girl in person but he did message her about wanting her and this was crossing a boundary for me. I considered this cheating. We had a rough patch but decided to stay together. At the time when he cheated, he logged out of his accounts and changed his passwords. I feel as if to this day I still get triggered or something because whenever he changes a password or logs out of an account not I feel some type of way inside. I feel as if I need to quickly go search for someone I can have a relationship with incase something is happening again. (It hasn’t happened again except for that one time). I have a fear of being lonely so I’m not sure if that adds to it too. I keep wondering if this is healthy or normal in a relationship, to keep worrying every time something is changed or logged out. I try to stop caring but it gives me anxiety. It’s my first relationship and we’ve been together for 8 years and we’re both in our 20’s. I feel if we were to break up it would be too much for me emotionally at this point in my life. I don’t know if I could handle the emotional pain right now.
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@Fifidog I recommend you seek a therapist. Once trust and respect are broken consider the relationship over. Your partner has already made plans to move on despite your outlook on the relationship. If he cheated once, he'll do it again with a better method to avoid getting caught. These relationship traits never have a happy ending.
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@Souls that’s a very food point thank you. Do you think a one time cheater will ever change or will they continue doing it in their next relationship?
@Fifidog "once a cheater, always a cheater," is just a phrase but if you and your partner have communication and infidelity issues it would be wise to ask how much remorse do they feel? do they take responsibility for their actions? have they forgiven themselves? what have they learned about themselves as a result of the cheating? how do they define fidelity? how committed are they to practicing fidelity? what are the things they do now to ensure they stay in their integrity?