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Feeling conflicted

Was on a late night call with a girl I'm dating last night

She was extremely sleepy and apparently got a bit too honest which I didn't mind, but some of the things she said hurt me

She talked about me having to conform to her timezone, and how staying up late isn't sustainable for her (understandable) but she sounded as if it was becoming a burden for her to stay up late and was a little rude/mean about it

She also mentioned about the fun she's going to have on a trip she goes on next week, and talked about how she likes doing an eye-contact thing with random guys in public but she definitely won't act on any of it

The one that really hurt was that she mentioned how she was thinking about this time last year, how she used to go on a lot of dates which were fun- and now she's committing to someone who's far away but she doesn't want to stop having fun. And I'm not sure if I heard this right but it sounded like she was saying just because she's committed doesn't mean she can't stop going out on fun dates

Is this enough for me to start to reconsider dating her, or am I overreacting?

This morning (few minutes ago) she just sent me a text saying that she's sorry for her ill mannered rant last night and she's really sorry I had to see her that way.

I don't even know how to respond or how to feel right now.
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
My guy. Often times people get their heart broken but its usually because they ignored signs and put up with shit like this.
You meantioned like 10 red flags in one post. Disrespect, commitment issues, excuses for hurtful words and behavior, saying things purposefully in order to have the upper hand.
You shouldn't play second fiddle to anyone's whims.
In this life you will only get the respect that you command and you aren't comming across as someone to be respected.
It sounds like she will break your heart and you are sitting around waiting for it to happen.
Take my advice and move on. Be happy and go where you are truly wanted. A woman won't do and say those things if she is a good upfront girl that truly values you period.
firefall · 61-69, M
@REMsleep just what was going to say (probably less clearly than you)