Are you still mourning a past relationship even though you've moved on?

I am VERY happy with my current girlfriend--happy enough to put a ring on it soon--but every now and then, my brain plays back breakup scenes of horror like the day I came home to an empty house...with a note. Funny, I thought I was married. That would be followed by months of legal wranglings and therapy. They aren't legit "flashbacks" but I just recall those things.

Or, perhaps, the final moments of my relationship with my college girlfriend or high school girlfriend.

Sometimes, my brain is the DVR from Hell. It works ok...but it has its moments.

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LadyGrace ·

No. I realize God protected me and saved me from not only a bad decision, then situation, but future terrible heartbreak. We need to pay attention to the red flags. They're there for a reason and most the time it's not the person we are sad about. It's more the idea that we were deceived, that the other person was not emotionally available anyway, and we were lied to, and we are mourning the fact that we are missing only what we thought we had. Big difference.