Meeting a girl I've been talking to long distance for two months in person tomorrow. What are some things to address?

We've known each other for a year, but actually ramped up flirting/talking like two/three months ago. I'm meeting her in person for the first time tomorrow.

I guess exclusivity is assumed, but should I still bring it up? I'm also not sure how soon is to sson to become official (actual "boyfriend/girlfriend"). I'm not toooooo experienced with dating but I don't think I'm clueless either.

Logistics of somewhat regular travel to see each other and if both of us are okay with that

Religion/faith, future career/life plans, thoughts on marriage, kids, etc. Is it too soon? Should I focus on enjoying our first "dates" (I'll be there for 5 days) and then have the more serious talks the next time we see? She's on the other side of the country so travel is expensive, I anticipate we'll probably meet in person like every 2-3 months.

We're both 23 turning 24 this year if that helps/matters.

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REMsleep · 41-45, F Best Comment

Don't overwhelm each other with plans and serious talks during this first trip is my advice. I was in a ldr for 8 years due to college and then immigration issues.

Do pay attention to your physical chemistry. Pay close attention to the vibe check from her in person. See if you can get a sense for her life and meet one or two of her family or friends.
See how dirty or clean she is, how she treats strangers, how the person that she had painted a picture of for you online and over the phone checks out with who she is in real life.
Never assume anything regarding exculsivity. So many people have different ideas about things even when you think that exclusivity is implied never assume.

Don't rush into sex it will cloud your head regarding how you really feel about her.
Have lots of fun but remember that one day you would presumably but with the non vacation non exciting trip version of her. Thats the person that you want to know.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@somedude15 Thanks for BA!