Would I be a bad girlfriend if I went out alone?

Of course not! There are other ways he could be dealing with his daughter’s issues that would not involve him sitting on her, but he chooses not to so I feel like he either wouldn’t be much for going out anyway (in which case it’s disturbing if he uses her as an excuse) or he confuses kids coming first with kids being only, which just sounds like he can’t make room for a relationship in his life. I think it would tell you a lot to see how he reacts to you going out without him, but regardless of that reaction, there seems to be a fair amount to consider here going forward. There might be a lot of other stuff that makes him a keeper, but please don’t undervalue your happiness! You’ve fought awfully hard for it. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗