Do you believe, when starting a relationship, that it’s important to meet someone who is healed and in a great place?

Or are you willing to love someone who needs a bit more tlc for what they’ve been through?

I wonder what makes for a stronger connection… or if it’s all dependent on the process and if they’re willing to help themselves? Or if you’d prefer that work be done before you enter the picture?

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caccoon · 36-40

It depends. If I feel like I am in a good and strong place to support another person, then I am definitely happy to be with them. But I would prefer that they were open with their problems, instead of just bottling them up (which I think a lot of men tend to do).

But if I am in a bad place, I don't want to be around other people in a relationship setting. I have been in the past and I was not a stable or good partner. Adding another person who is also in a bad place, is kind of a scary situation.