What do you think about non-monogamy?

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I'm open to non-monogamy personally

It's not for me, but different strokes for different folks

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This video came up in my YouTube feed. This married lesbian couple has added a third partner. She is also in a straight marriage with a guy.

On paper, I support them. But when I watched the video, I was surprised that it brought up some yucky feelings. I am probably just jealous to see three impossibly-good-looking girls together. Hard to say for sure though, emotions kinda suck sometimes.

What are your thoughts?

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

🤷🏻‍♀️ I want to say that I support non-monogamy in the different strokes for different folks sense. I’ve also been pretty involved in that community and anecdotally I’ve never once seen a lasting, healthy, non-monogamy dynamic. Whenever I think I’ve finally met the unicorn it still inevitably implodes for usual reasons: hostage situations, codependency, low self-esteem stuff, financial dependence on someone they’d leave if they could, abandonment issues, abuse.

JustGoneNow

@WhateverWorks this.

ShadowSister · 51-55, F

@WhateverWorks That seems pretty damning... until I remember how many monogamous relationship I've seen implode for the exact same reasons. Couples I thought would last forever, and then we get the news. Does anyone stay together anymore?

But yeah, all the difficulties of a monogamous relationship, just with a lot more complexity.

JustGoneNow

@ShadowSister Lots of monogamous relationships implode but some don’t. My issue is that I’ve personally never seen a poly one make it. None. Now, I’m not saying the can’t, but I’ve never seen one.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah I’m gonna have to second DarkHeaven on this one. Sure, I’ve seen monogamous relationships not work out for somewhat similar reasons that I listed. I’ve also seen plenty of healthy, long lasting monogamous relationships and zero non-monogamy arrangements. Much like what she said above, I’m not saying it can’t happen, I’m just saying I’ve been involved in that community in a number of different regions within the US and it all still looked about the same. @ShadowSister