Is love an instant thing? Or it develops over time?
Like do we get to pick our partners? Or there's someone out there who's made for us
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Hassan · 22-25, M
@SW-User yea😬 there's that quote for freud that says lovers exist in each other's subconscious even before meeting... So I've been thinking what'd be like if I'm healed and didn't choose someone based on appearance or what i hate vs what i like in my mom... It's just weird how you either step from letting your subconscious choose for you or be part of the game💔
SW-User
@Hassan and yeah makes sense and that's why lots of people like partners that have some traits similar to their parents 😕
Hassan · 22-25, M
@SW-User it's called oedipus complex 😬 that means when girls develop feelings for their dads and boys for their moms.. I've heard that if you grow in a healthy family where parents love each other you won't go through this. I believe we are too emotional and never really ready to leave home so we start tricking our minds and replacing our parents.A healthy relationship whether between parents or lover is based on communication, honesty, open mind... It has nothing to do with our parents 💔 It takes too much time to realize many things
SW-User
@Hassan but it's not conscious so you replicate.. It.
Hassan · 22-25, M
@SW-User yea😬