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Asking for advice. It's been close to two months since she broke up with me

But I'm still in love with her. I've have tried to date other women but none compare. In my eyes she's honestly just the one. And it hurts to think that she might not feel the same. I never got to know why she broke up with me and I've sort of come to peace with the fact that I might never know.


But. It's been close to two months of no contact, but now we're somehow both on a small, 4 person organizing committee for something. And so we basically have to interact with each other to some extent. I could see her making effort to try to talk to me somehow (or maybe it was all in my head). I want her back but I don't want to chase, since she was the one who broke up with me. So I haven't made it seem like I'm desperate because I have to have some self respect, rn I probably seem uninterested.


What ways can I make her know that the door is still open if she's willing to try?
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By the way the thing she did that you mentioned in the comments is the PP trick. Pleasure Pain or Push Pull trick. Look it up. Basically in order to get someone deeply attached to you, one would give you a dose of pleasure (you said she told you she loves you) then pulls away (she dumps you just days or weeks after telling you she loves you). This makes you insecure and unsure of yourself. It leaves you wounded and because you're in so much pain, you want nothing more than for the individual inflicting this pain on you to take it away. You need that pleasure back. You basically behave as an addict needing a fix. Real sinister stuff. Don't for a second think your 'girl' isn't capable of such a thing simply because you're in love. Do not allow yourself to be played that way my dude.