Asking for advice. It's been close to two months since she broke up with me

But I'm still in love with her. I've have tried to date other women but none compare. In my eyes she's honestly just the one. And it hurts to think that she might not feel the same. I never got to know why she broke up with me and I've sort of come to peace with the fact that I might never know.

But. It's been close to two months of no contact, but now we're somehow both on a small, 4 person organizing committee for something. And so we basically have to interact with each other to some extent. I could see her making effort to try to talk to me somehow (or maybe it was all in my head). I want her back but I don't want to chase, since she was the one who broke up with me. So I haven't made it seem like I'm desperate because I have to have some self respect, rn I probably seem uninterested.

What ways can I make her know that the door is still open if she's willing to try?

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Fluffybull · F

She broke up with you for a reason. Don't keep hoping, get on with your life, you may not be ready to date someone else but have a social life, try and have fun. It takes time to heal.

somedude15 · 22-25, M

@Fluffybull I have hó estly tried, and I do have an enjoyable life. Good friends, good career, great hobbies, everything is good. But I want her to share in it. It's messing me up mentally because literally a week before she broke up with me she was telling me how she was falling in love with me and was scared of how strong the feelings were. And then she just suddenly broke up with me for no reason at all.

And when I see her irl, I sort of get the feeling that she wants to talk to me or something. Idk. Maybe this is all in my head and my desire to have her back is making me read things that aren't there

Fluffybull · F

@somedude15 If she wanted to be with you I think she'd be with you. Maybe she has commitment issues and has done this with other partners. Is it affecting your work? Do you feel you'd be better working somewhere else? A lot of people would find it difficult seeing their ex at work.