ok help me out here...

so the girl i am with right now. Its kinda complicated. her ex hurt her real bad, he kinda really destroyed her emotionally by using her and blah blah blah. Now she starts telling me yesterday shes angry because her ex with some girl now. she said she is still hurt coz of what he did and the fact that he never apologized or took responsibility of it.

do you think i should think she is still in love with him? coz i didnt like it when she was telling me all that. what should i do here>?

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dubkebab · 51-55, M

The scars of abuse can take years to truly get past and come with many complications.If you are in this for the long run,do what you can to model supportive and nurturing behavior that will allow a safe environment for your partner.Have patience and know that anyone else's mess is not yours,you can enable growth and healing without getting embroiled in petty jealousies and repetitious cycles of bad behavior with some empathy,honesty and effort.Good luck,this stuff ain't easy to work through.It will take time.Communication is key.

Number5 · 22-25, M

@dubkebab thanks man, helped me there.

but she was friends with him after that, and i thought if shes having him as her friend even after all the hurting he did, and now she is upset that he is with someone else. i thought she might be still in love with him

what do you think

Number5 · 22-25, M

@dubkebab dude answer me 😂