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I Am Not Your Honey

Or your sweetie
Or your baby
Or your sugar pie, honey bunch, or bae.

In romantic relationships, we tend to develop a private language. We have our inside jokes, our frequently used phrases, and our nicknames.

A nickname is a fun, playful way to express your feelings for your partner and establish a level of familiarity and comfort in the relationship. These terms of endearment run the gamut from classic to cute to bizarre. Pet names like “sweetheart” and “honey” have been around for hundreds of years (since the thirteenth and fourteenth centuries, respectively), while newcomer “bae” is a twenty-first-century invention.

~Grammarly Blog

I admit it drives me a bit crazy when people I do not know think they can just call me honey or sweetie. If you're sending me our first ever private message and your start with "Hey Sexy" because you're too lazy to edit your cut-and-paste message with my name, then do not expect a positive response. 🙄

There are a few (very few) exceptions to this here on SW. A few people I've grown very close to and smile a little when they call me sweetie or something similar. But we've grown into that. We chatted here in stories and in private and developed a relationship of mutual trust and genuine affection. That's when "Jess" gets replaced with something fun and sweet and smile-inducing. 😁

If you want to get there someday, then start with "Jess" because if you start with baby, our relationship will be short-lived. 😒
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
I think people are always looking for something bad. There are pervs and assholes here. No doubt. But some of us are truly being kind. And I agree, one might not call one sweetie right off the bat but it also depends on where you live. That term has a couple of meanings but i personally use this one from the dictionary. It first came out in the 1700’s..

“a kind or helpful person : someone who is very nice”. That is all i mean from it. Obviously the other person isn’t my sweetheart. And the sentence context should clearly indicate intent.