I'm currently reading a book about a woman who is married to a polygamous man. He has 3 wives, but none of them have met one another or even seen one another...until wife #2 gets curious about the others.
It is a really interesting book, but it does dredge up unpleasant memories of my own relationship with a poly man. 😬
I just get tired of the responses I get when I talk about my own polyamorous status myself because it's like Listen your Anecdotal story is one I'm more than willing to listen to but please understand that it doesn't generalize and you're trying essentially to act like because you had problems with one of us that we're all like the figure who you had trouble with.
I mean feel free to share just don't act like "You can't do it" because ONE relationship in that category was abusive and terrible.
abusers traffic through all the communities and given the education monogamy breeds it never WARNS you isolation is one of the key things batterers do.
Was there an unfairness? Did this person practice the one penis policy? Oh. Well then we cna keep him confined to the mormon religious crap where it belongs.
it's funny how when something goes terrible in a monogamous relationship people blame the person but when it does with poly anything people blame the lack of rules.
@DearAmbellina2113 I just get sort of annoyed because people talk about it and it's like they'll mention that there are one or two players in the community that are totally abusive fucknuts towards the opposite sex and it's like that's a given but they exist in every community and for me part of the allure of the alternative lifestyle is there's always someone else watching over interactions so if men get abusive there's people there to defend her and call them out on it. all that appeals.
But no I hear you it's just I've got my own reasons to be frustrated, might not be on you though.
Like I hear things on the grape vine about the abusive parties and it just frustrates me how they blame everything on the lack of rules those men play by as if you know They wouldn't be equally abusive under monogamy only more likely to isolate their victims so no one could see the bruises.
