Some silly observations as usual

Something I noticed, is that there is this fear/dread relationship between men and women in my society... It is in the way females in my culture feel towards the males they are related to, or have married. Like whenever I am with a friend, I notice that they get anxious, when they have received a text from their husband. I even confirmed that with my friend last time, and she was like; you know, I hadn't noticed it until you pointed it out..

I know I also had felt the same way towards my father and brothers..

The weird thing is that these men are not necessarily violent .. When I asked my friend last time, she actually went further and was like, you know what, I also get a bit of a freak out when I hear the sound of the lock as my husband gets into the house... I got a bit worried when she said that, so I asked her if he has ever been violent, but she said no, it is just how it feels...

It reminded me of my own actually, I also felt anxious when my father or brother came into the house...

It made me wonder as to why it is like this..and I feel that the reason behind it probably lies along the lines that men in my society have to act tough and strict (not the same thing as being aggressive or violent), or else they are not men, which creates a barrier between them and the women around them... They are also perceived as in charge and with authority... and so are feared, even if there is no specific reason for such fear..

This is really sad.. Because I'd like to feel security and protection from the person living with me ... Not fear him and dread his presence