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[b]Friendship on SW?[/b]

I have met some great people on this place and I don't really believe that SW is full of idiots (or insolent peasants as I have called you many times before). But...to the "witty" males that have tried to befriend me...all of you with your poetry and eclectic music taste and long conversations about life and what's real and what's not...I do admire your mind. And talking to me about how you admired mine was definitely flattering. But did my mind stop being "admirable" once you realised I didn't want to be more "intimate"? Why spend hours talking to this "special friend" of yours if she's not that special after all? Or even a friend...? I hate it when people make me feel so special only to find out that they've been trying to get something from me and then watch them leave, complimenting and worshipping their new "victim". If friendship is not what you're really looking for then, please, take all your beautiful lies and leave. Why do I have to go through periods of anger and self - doubt just because you're not strong enough to be clear about what you really want and who you really are? And I know that I "shouldn't care about strangers on the internet" and I should probably "go get a life" but I find it stupid to pretend I don't care when I clearly spend most of my time on here.
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All that bullshit flattery & compliments & over attentiveness is a huge red flag. That's not what friendship looks like but it felt good so you went with it. A lot of women need to be honest with themselves & more introspective about why they nurture these kinds of bonds.
SW-User
@Selah: Hmmmmmm...you are actually right.
Magenta · F
Spot on Selah. Great point to ponder.

The compliments/flattery used to mean something. But then when you see and realize the exact same things are said to every other female, it loses all value and appeal.

It only means something when it is from someone special only to you/me, imo. :-)
so true