I Have Something to Say

So this is were I have a problem. I'm not comfortable talking always with males due to the irritation I have as a result of my been abused when I was younger and the girls I try to talk to and I like seem not to like me the way I like them.Today clarified the idea of hoping that a girl I admired would not have that same likeness for me. And I think i've wanted something that cannot come from girls I like. So my question is, how do I live without talking or relating with girls? And what do you think is the best action to take in my situation?

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Sapira · 36-40, F

Why would you need to live without talking or relating to girls? We are people to you know! Just talk and get to know them as a friend first without worrying about having a serious relationship with them. In time you feel more relaxed and if any relationship is going to develop it will naturally because you will know it's what she wants. She will let you know. Enjoy life and stop worrying.

RoyX54 · 36-40, M

If you knew the type of pain I felt when I found out a certain person i found interest in turned who i've been friends with doesn't like me as much..my heart, may not be able to accommodate that sort of emotion again. I honestly don't know what love is. And I may not have the chance of experiencing it. I will not allow my past of been abused to change the fact that as a man I am supposed to like women. That is a natural fact, and I can't change it. But life seems unbalanced because I haven't had a girl who probably would have seen me the way I liked. I wish I could live and love music, as my area of interest, but it seems impossible. I have tried to build a friendship, but I may be quick to see certain things that tell me 'i'm not as important as other people in your life' kind of phase. Today, was just the very obvious one. Maybe my Words cannot describe how I felt realistically. But I have learnt From what I saw. The bad thing is, what I learnt is not a beautiful thing from girls in my area. I'm simply trying to live comfortably without been hurt by a girl. I appreciate your answer. Thank you.