I Have Something to Say

So this is were I have a problem. I'm not comfortable talking always with males due to the irritation I have as a result of my been abused when I was younger and the girls I try to talk to and I like seem not to like me the way I like them.Today clarified the idea of hoping that a girl I admired would not have that same likeness for me. And I think i've wanted something that cannot come from girls I like. So my question is, how do I live without talking or relating with girls? And what do you think is the best action to take in my situation?

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saintsong · 41-45, F

build a relationship first, one of pure unadulterated love and work on that, shareing yourself with her, it doesn't matter in the begining if she feels the same way about you, that takes time, so give it time and just show her what a deep and meaningful relationship really looks like, of course she will love you.

RoyX54 · 36-40, M

Thank you for your answer :) And I think i understand what you mean. I wish I could actually have the endurance of seeing how freely she relates easily with other guys and when it comes to me, contact seems like an impossible thing between us. So I wonder. I tried to hug her once and she said have I seen her hug guys before?' like a rhetorical question. Then today I saw her hug a guy. If you know how I felt. I just had to conclude that there are better people she likes more than me. The bad thing is, once I'm hurt I disconnect from those people. No matter how good they are. I always wish them the Best. But i've learnt enough lessons to let such a thing happen again. I Just want a balance of care from a girl who likes me and who I like.