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Men cannot express their feelings, we just can't. It's not necessarily that society expects us to be strong, self sustaining, and independent it's more or less our own pride that's on the line. We dont express our frustration, our sorrow, our grief because we dont want to be characterized as over dramatic weaklings. I gotta tell you I carry an enormous amount of stress everyday and it takes everything I've got not to go off on someone. I bite my tongue because I hate confrontation and am not willing to risk my job or livelihood but because of this I have a constant, unyielding urge to bury my fist into something. To take a chair and chuck it at someone off in the distance. I have temptations to side swipe assholes on the road or kick someone down the stairs. It's not that I'm sadistic in nature, but I'm desperate to burn off this rage. I'm trying to be the best man I can be but its difficult when I'm taken for granted or taken advantage of. When my efforts go unnoticed and my voice falls on deaf ears. I feel alone, stuck in a rut, forgotten and abandoned. I do not desire carnage, I dont wish to cause harm, I just wish things were better. What am I to do? I have to bottle it up. I cant drink away my sorrows, I hate therapists, only one friend whom I rarely see and my family wouldnt understand. I've debated talking to my dad but what is holding me back is I cannot stand the man even though we're similar in this fashion. I fear a conversation between him and I would be nothing more than a lecture that would surely devolve into an argument. Understand I dont want someone to coddle me. I just want to understand what's happening to me. What's frustrating is not having the answers I need.
Asificair · M
This is not uncommon and you're not alone, well done for not turning to alcohol, well done for being honest and recognising how you feel, well done for asking for help.

A short term solution maybe in exercise, go to the gym, go for a run or just a fast paced walk, dump that built up energy and frustration. In the long term find a mens secular therapy chat group, despite your hatred of 'therapy' not all therapy is the same and you need to talk and explore the source of these frustrations with others in a similar position whilst being guided by a professional, there's no quick permanent fix and it's not easy, but you're halfway there.
CuddleFeesh · 26-30, M
[@854658,Asificair] tomorrow I plan to research martial art studios
Asificair · M
[@593575,CuddleFeesh] yes I saw the post, hope you find something that helps, work on that therapy, goggle "humanist" groups in your area, particularly "mens mental health clubs".
Gouzi · 22-25, M
Sounds like you're going against your gut. Stick to your gut. You don't need to be able to say how your gut “feels". Just act as your gut tells you to.

Then you'll hate yourself less.
Gouzi · 22-25, M
[@864112,ImplodingVoices] Look at you attacking anyone who shares their impression. He shared this post reaching out for peoples impressions. I shared mine.
Website objective achieved.
ImplodingVoices · 41-45, F
[@936537,Gouzi] Anyone? No. Just you.
CuddleFeesh · 26-30, M
[@864112,ImplodingVoices] I don't care whether I get negative critique or positive. Sometimes you have to light a fire under your ass.
Montanaman · M
Your first paragraph says it all. Me can and do express their feelings and emotions. I do. Never been embarrassed. It's a natural thing. Human. Allow yourself to be human. 🤗

 
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