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I’m at the laundromat and I feel the need to just write this out as I’m witnessing it.

So I’ve loaded my laundry in the wash and added soap to it and even put the softener in the little dispenser.

There is a family of 4 here: mom and dad and son (30 something but already balding) mom and dad are full headed grey hair, their daughter (late 20’s early 30’s).

I noticed them as soon as I walked in but didn’t notice anything odd, until minutes later their daughter started screaming - randomly and not words, just “blah. Blah bleh” but when she wasn’t screaming she’d speak out a few words “mommy - kissy” “daddy huggy” “brother - smile”

I carry on about my business and I smile at the family their patience and love shines through this warms my heart.

But as the screaming is persistent I notice everyone else just staring, snickering, and staring some more.
The man loading a machine smack dab in the middle of mine let’s out a huff - and then a groan and the persistent screaming of this clearly disabled child. I know I know she’s technically an adult but behaviorally and mentally she is still just a child.

This irritated me, I sat on the bench and watched as the machine started to slowly spin and water slowly rise in the window of the washer.

The more the man groaned and huffed the angrier I got. He was then on his phone complaining to god knows who, looking me up and down and speaking thinking I could not understand what he was saying- ok I know I look Hispanic but still I understood every word he said, when he got off his phone he looked at me and smiled and I smiled back and said to him.

“You know you don’t HAVE to be here, she has no control over her outbursts your judgement of what you don’t understand is ugly”

I got up and walked away. I didn’t think anyone heard me but a select few smiled at my remarks and others just hung their head in shame.

We live in such an ugly world.
PoetryNEmotion · 61-69, F
No, Kay, we live in a world with ugly people.
PoetryNEmotion · 61-69, F
@KaysHealingPath You have a kind, understanding heart, Kay. Read the reply of the person above. She is nearly your age too. Disappointing.
KaysHealingPath · 31-35, F
@PoetryNEmotion indeed disappointing. We live in a world full of selfish hateful people.
Earbuds could have drowned out the noise - easily. It’s not like she was being deliberate. She couldn’t control it. What’s the family supposed to do? Keep her locked in the basement? 🤦🏻‍♀️
maybesomeday · 26-30, F
@PoetryNEmotion You know nothing about me, dear.
hlpflwthat · M
Well now just a second little buddy! There's you, and there's the folks who smiled at your remark, and there's the family that knows patience most will never dream and there's the young woman who makes the noise herself ... all beautiful in your own way.

I'd have reacted similar to you. But I don't stay hung up on the ugly long enough for it to get me down. Have a great weekend! :)
KaysHealingPath · 31-35, F
Gracias @hlpflwthat you’re right, I shouldn’t get hung up on the ugly, and appreciate the beauty. I hope one day the balances of ugly and beauty shift - we need more beauty in this world.
maybesomeday · 26-30, F
I would have been annoyed even if it had been an actual child. No one wants to listen to someone screaming and making a racket. To be honest, if I was there I wouldn't be judging the disabled woman, I'd simply be frustrated by the noise. Just because someone may be annoyed by what someone else is doing, doesn't mean they're being cruel or judgmental. She was noisy and that's annoying, whether she is disabled or not. Had someone actually said something directed at her or her disability, then you can say they're an ugly/horrible person but it doesn't seem as if they have said anything.
KaysHealingPath · 31-35, F
@maybesomeday you didn’t hear the things this Guy was saying on the phone, loud enough that the family heard what he said.
We as a people need to have more tolerance for those that are disabled. In most cases they have little to no control over their outbursts, but we do.

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