I Have Something to Say

I worry I'm forgetting how to talk. I don't mean I'm forgetting how to move my mouth and form words - I can still do that just fine. What I mean is most of the time I just don't feel motivated to. I worry I'm forgetting how to share ME, because it just seems like no one is really listening, and I've never seen the point of talking when no one is listening. Has anyone else out there ever felt that way?

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Kerennya · 51-55, F

@Jake: Oh, yay! That makes you the kind of person I'm hoping to connect with. I was on Experience Project (EP) before I came here, and I'd characterize my conversations with men there and here as follows:

~40-50% wanted to talk sex without relationship, sometimes with a pretense of talking about sex in a interesting conversational way, but it always led to unwanted sexually explicit talk. I learned how to use the "block feature" when things got to that point!

~40-45% were looking for romance. I understand that's a strong need that people have, but just NOT what I'm looking for. And I would tell some of these men this as clearly as I knew how, they said they respected that, then they proceeded to keep interviewing me as for the position of their soulmate. I was like, [i]"Huh?"[/i] And that's when I decided to only chat via PM with men who will interact with me via posts first. That's been a good move and eliminated a lot of unwanted nonsense.

<5% were interested in actual adult conversation - and I really enjoyed those conversations a lot. I've only met one man like that so far on SW, with two from last night being maybes.

How about you? Did you used to be on EP? If not, how did you find SW?