I Have Something to Say

I worry I'm forgetting how to talk. I don't mean I'm forgetting how to move my mouth and form words - I can still do that just fine. What I mean is most of the time I just don't feel motivated to. I worry I'm forgetting how to share ME, because it just seems like no one is really listening, and I've never seen the point of talking when no one is listening. Has anyone else out there ever felt that way?

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JakeShade · 61-69, M

I did discover deeper in your stories/comments that you live alone (in case you think I wasn't listening to you!)...

I know that many men ARE very bad about not listening to women. (e.g. the stories in Rebecca Solnit's "Men Explain Things to me"...

I"m sorry your experience with (your brother?) has lead you to believe that all men are prone to behave this way. Or perhaps you have more data points, which isn't surprising. Many women, including my own sister, have demonstrated to me that *women* can be poor listeners too.

I agree that not having an intimate relationship is a valid alternative to having a *bad* one!

I'm interested in your thread(s) about the "language of apology" and about shame vs resentment.

Keep it coming!