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If you anyone has sometips on living without needing to talk or relate with girls and still be ok, i'm open to learn please. I'm not doing ok. I need help on this please.
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Scribbles · 36-40, F
I went through a period of time in which I tried so hard to avoid all Men as much as I could...even the ones in my own family. I was not doing ok.
But I also knew avoiding half the world's population was not fixing any of my problems. I don't know what the problem is for you or how to fix it or how for you to work on it.
I often had to have a friend with me when I'd interact with guys, because it would not go well...whether it was as friends, or if it was more romantic/a date. It would start off Super-Great, then I'd want out or they would. I'd suddenly end up socially impaired, or intensely moody, or antisocial, or freak out/end up causing a fight. Having a friend to help move things along, keep things balanced, and help you keep up a relationship and push you as a person helped, or get you out of a situation helped so much to teach me to be more easy going and learn to be more relaxed and less anxious. And it became so much easier to keep friendships with men and talk to them.
Therapy has helped me too. I was really glad I was seeing a therapist when I started dating the man who is now my ( very amazing) boyfriend of over a year. Sometimes It just helps to talk things out with someone.
You never know what is in the future. Maybe there is some way that will help you?
But I also knew avoiding half the world's population was not fixing any of my problems. I don't know what the problem is for you or how to fix it or how for you to work on it.
I often had to have a friend with me when I'd interact with guys, because it would not go well...whether it was as friends, or if it was more romantic/a date. It would start off Super-Great, then I'd want out or they would. I'd suddenly end up socially impaired, or intensely moody, or antisocial, or freak out/end up causing a fight. Having a friend to help move things along, keep things balanced, and help you keep up a relationship and push you as a person helped, or get you out of a situation helped so much to teach me to be more easy going and learn to be more relaxed and less anxious. And it became so much easier to keep friendships with men and talk to them.
Therapy has helped me too. I was really glad I was seeing a therapist when I started dating the man who is now my ( very amazing) boyfriend of over a year. Sometimes It just helps to talk things out with someone.
You never know what is in the future. Maybe there is some way that will help you?