I Have a Question

Oh, that common decency. Best of luck getting anyone under twenty-five or so to care about that who did not already care about it in the first place. They have no interest in being men in the old sense of the word you are used to. Much could be said about how this came to be normal, but normal it unfortunately is.

People like that just have a fundamentally different understanding of what self-confidence means. Many younger people tend to associate confidence with having the boldness to simply do as they please without being swayed by others' feelings. They do not quite have a solid enough sense of who they are to be able to easily compromise over even small matters without feeling this as permitting a nigh-existential onslaught on their own identity.

Such, at least, is my perception of how those among such younger people who actually have a good prognosis for "growing out of" this behavior relate to confidence. The more problematic ones are the people who have never been acclimated to this notion of common decency enough to even have the hole in their heart where it could be.

@jongtae - I mean being civilized. I mean don't throw your rubbish on your neighbour's yard; obey the rules of the road and respect pedestrian rights; understand that your neighbours don't have the same taste in music that you do so don't blast your stereo across the street because you have had too much to drink, don't DRINK in public period. Keep that kind of sh*t to yourself, and don't expect people to be quiet when you don't. And then don't expend all your energy trying to get them to change by throwing stones through windows or draping toilet paper over their fence 😡

@-Vell- There was an interesting demographic statistic about the use of infrastructure and resources; mostly in relation to drivers and traffic collisions; but truly the stat can be applied to society as a whole - Only 8% of any given population are criminally predisposed and yet 75% of our energy and resources are spent dealing with the fall-out from their behaviour. One would think that after all that effort that the following generation of offenders would shrink! But I get your point. I'm tempted to ask my mom if I was that much of a twat when I was in my early twenties but I'm not sure I'd like the answer... 😯

@ OurUserName - oh dear it sounds like you've been in the same boat! Have faith my cisgender sibling. Not all the peeps around you are like that.👊

If by man you mean;

Many
Angry
Nerds

Then it is easy.

Otherwise they are just idiots.

@-Vell- Thanks for your comment. I'm probably old-fashioned but I think there's an attribute of manliness that recognizes that you have the upper hand so you don't pick on those who are smaller or weaker than you. I guess I'm looking for a sense of self-confidence that this person just doesn't possess! Can I cue some drama here? 😏

WOW. Those kinds of people sound terrible

@jongtae - they are! Don't grow up to be one of them! :)

It doesn't!

@OurUserName - do what I do, block block block. I even block people who's posts I don't like from the first few lines. Sorry I'm sure you're very nice people but I really don't want to know your porno side - thanks though!

It doesn't. Only Y chromosomes confer manhood. One could bully three, even four, older women, and they would still not come away from it a man if they were not one before.

Oh I know it isn't all or even most. But this site does attract a lot of them

what do you mean by common decency?