Women have told me that a "real" man is kind, sensitive, attentive, forgiving, compassionate and not afraid to shed a tear. So MY question is...

You make a valid point my friend.

Women also like guys who are manly and have integrity. Simps or pushovers aren't attractive.

Yikes. These lists of requirements like an application for a robot is extreme annoying.

But lol, you have a good point.

Because men act like good men in the beginning. They try to be what you want and need until they resent you for it because they weren't being themselves.

I'm to the point I'm happiest without a man because I don't want to take the time to figure out who they really are in the process of being led to believe in a facade.

I think its more universal than that, they are describing real people.
Or rather, people who have developed a sense of balance.

People evolve. They change over time, we all do.
People eventually relax their barriers and thats when you get to see who really lies underneath. Sometimes its someone who carries a lot of damage and hasnt dealt with it, sometimes its someone who has🤷‍♀

And why does all this bother you? Just curious because it feels like a rant that isn't about anything but anger directed at women.

Men say the say the same sort of thing about women and do the same thing here on SW and elsewhere.