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Do you put work/money before loved ones/quality time?

Even when times are tough, I choose my son and the quality time that my mental and physical health rely on.

Several times in relationships my partner has chosen work. One time an (now) ex quit a job because it was making him a monster then turned around and took another job even more strenuous. I remember him asking me what I thought and thinking to myself, it will be the end of us. I didn't tell him that because people have to make their own choices, I supported him to do what he thought was best, but it ruined us.

I know working is essential to survival, I work seven days a week, but that's so I can be there for my son as much as possible and still pay the bills. I'm barely scraping by but making it and I took the stress off myself because right now my son needs me more than I need more money.

I just never understood using precious life to get ahead monetarily and neglect everything you work for.

I know there are pressures and people get in tight spots, but nothing is worth more than our time. And not all my time is for sale.
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
I've been in this situation. Early in my career if put work first supporting the breadwinner "ideal". But when things began falling apart, I realized that you can't take people's word at face value and I needed to determine for myself if work was hurting my relationships. A spouse will say things are ok when they aren't and then hold bad feelings. Happened more than once.