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Do you believe people are inherently honest, or inherently dishonest?

Does that belief, in turn, change how honest you are? Does it change how much of your inner true self you are willing to reveal to someone else? Does it change how you respond when you hear the I Love You's in life?

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jademonkey19 · 41-45, T Best Comment
I think people are essentially good, but I think honest and dishonest are particularly tricky to quantify. I've always had a harder time opening up to people I love because I'm afraid of rejection; conversely, it was always very easy to be open and very much myself online with strangers.

It's only been in the last few years that I learned to feel safe with the people I've known the longest - my partner, my sister, two friends I've had since 2nd grade, etc.

Years of therapy later, I understand now that this was probably a reaction to how I was raised. My mom left when I was very little, but up until the day she left, I felt like I was the center of her world - it hurt an awful lot, and I think I took from it that the people we love the most are in many ways the most dangerous.

At this point in my life, I'm pretty much out of secrets; I trust people to tell me when they have a problem and I try not to worry about it unless they say something.

So: do I think people are honest? No - but I think most of the time when people lie, it's a self defense mechanism of some sort, or a sign of their own shame \ insecurity. Ultimately, I kind of expect it - and in most cases, I'm willing to forgive it.
@jademonkey19 Excellent reply. 👍
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
@jademonkey19 I think you're correct - the people we love the most are the most dangerous. They have the power to dismantle us from within. The things people do can have lasting effects. Great answer!