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Sb356 · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl I strongly doubt it as hes not one to play and would tell me but I guess it’s not impossible lol from what he’s told me I don’t believe his family does that tho
@Sb356 He might not be... he also might not be going into it willingly.
It's not unheard of for children from some cultures to vanish without warning and never be seen again - then, if they are, they're usually married.
It's not unheard of for children from some cultures to vanish without warning and never be seen again - then, if they are, they're usually married.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl true but I also know his parents wouldn’t have at the age he is. He’s 25. Also I don’t think they would have made him disappear from work with no warning either….they brought him here for all the things they went thru to get a better life I don’t think they’d be aiming for arranges marriage…..the whole situation is just weird But I guess it won’t hurt to ask if I ever get to see him again.
[quote][b]what the max time is that they would keep a person in like that??? [/b][/quote]
If you are a private payer OR you have Medicare OR Medicaid (or both if you are disabled) then they can keep you until they (and him) feel he is "No longer a threat to himself or others"..... If he is under insurance (like Kaiser), then the ins company pushes to get them stabilized and discharged within 10 days.
If he is in a mental health facility.... they took his phone, his belt, and anything that has "strings" on it (think shoestrings). These items are removed from the area and usually placed in the facilities office area (which is separate from the patients area). He will get them back when he is discharged.
If he is over 18, does not have a legal guardian, and isn't a ward of the courts or a law enforcement prisoner, then it is pretty much his call as to when he feels safe enough to leave.
Until we as a society, start treating mental health as an "illness" and not as a "defect" we will continue to fail. IE: .... he may not want to talk to you when he gets discharged, he might be embarrassed to relate his experience to you for fear of how you might feel. And so on and so forth... many patients have difficulty with this scenario and hence tend to "hide at home with your family .... who you know will have your best interests in mind.
If you are a private payer OR you have Medicare OR Medicaid (or both if you are disabled) then they can keep you until they (and him) feel he is "No longer a threat to himself or others"..... If he is under insurance (like Kaiser), then the ins company pushes to get them stabilized and discharged within 10 days.
If he is in a mental health facility.... they took his phone, his belt, and anything that has "strings" on it (think shoestrings). These items are removed from the area and usually placed in the facilities office area (which is separate from the patients area). He will get them back when he is discharged.
If he is over 18, does not have a legal guardian, and isn't a ward of the courts or a law enforcement prisoner, then it is pretty much his call as to when he feels safe enough to leave.
Until we as a society, start treating mental health as an "illness" and not as a "defect" we will continue to fail. IE: .... he may not want to talk to you when he gets discharged, he might be embarrassed to relate his experience to you for fear of how you might feel. And so on and so forth... many patients have difficulty with this scenario and hence tend to "hide at home with your family .... who you know will have your best interests in mind.
plungesponge · 41-45, M
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@plungesponge police sting??
plungesponge · 41-45, M
@Sb356 Knew someone who disappeared from work or friends once, turned out he was a pedo and police had taken him away
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@plungesponge oh I see got it😭
calicuz · 51-55, M
I read your other post, and I think you may have been ghosted.
How l; long were you two dating?
How l; long were you two dating?
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@calicuz …..we’ve only been seeing each other for about 7 months…..now I can see where you would think that….but- did u read everything? It’s not only me who can’t get a hold of him. No one can. He lost his job because he literally disappeared. We work at the same place. He hasn’t even been to work. He had an interview for a promotion that he was so excited for….he studied and fought so hard to get it too… but he didn’t show up. He’s literally no where to be found.
calicuz · 51-55, M
@Sb356
Yes, but you also mentioned that his father said he would get a package to him.
It all sounds strange, but is there a chance that his family, his parents, in particular, control him, and possibly didn't approve of him dating so they have convinced him to completely change his life and ghost everyone?
Some parents can't give up control of their kids, even when those kids become adults.
Yes, but you also mentioned that his father said he would get a package to him.
It all sounds strange, but is there a chance that his family, his parents, in particular, control him, and possibly didn't approve of him dating so they have convinced him to completely change his life and ghost everyone?
Some parents can't give up control of their kids, even when those kids become adults.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@calicuz I’ve entertained that thought here and there. That the parents had something to do with it. He’s mentioned them being a little on the conservative/traditional side but he’s dated before….and we talked about the scenario of “what if mom doesn’t like me?” And he said he wouldn’t care- he would still be with me. So…..I don’t get the sense that he would let the “control” go that far…..I suspect something urgent because of how fast it happened. Out of no where and seemingly overnight as well…..We were in the middle of a text convo and he asked me a question and that’s the last I heard from him. Mom has been dealing with breast cancer for a few months now so I assumed she passed and he shut down….but when I went to the house she turned up behind dad….I’m just trying to get a lead and put a story together little by little but it’s nearly impossible. Thank you for your input!
Fluffybull · F
A person can be put somewhere against their will if they're over 25, if they're judged a risk to themself or others.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@Fluffybull @Fluffybull examples???
Fluffybull · F
You've been seeing each other for seven months and you've never met his parents? 🤔
calicuz · 51-55, M
Maybe he's in jail.
