While your intention sounds fine, here's the problem with your proposed solution. By letting go of your past, you will let go of everyone and everything IN your past. I am attempting to run away from my past and it's easier than you think. But, the outcome is tough to accept upon suddenly finding what was YOUR history no longer belongs to you. It's like starting all over again without the benefit of having the "right" age. On the plus side, it does free you from everything that happened. Do you think you are strong enough to truly start over? I thought I was; now I'm not so sure, but I am already disconnected from my past so I can only go forward (there is no going back without a past). I am sad a lot. Be sure you want what you wish...

No, it isn't that simple. When someone has hurt you, and hurt you badly, it's very difficult, especially when it's the other person's fault. Forgiving someone takes time and effort. I still struggle with it with a few people. The biggest thing that works for me is to remind myself that I don't want to harbor hatred and I don't want to become bitter. Most of all, I don't want my own faults, grudges, and bad feelings to become worse than what the other person did to me.

I wish you all success with this, SincerelyHer, but know it will be a long, tough road.

It can be, you remind yourself everyday that you are worth forgiving. Until the day comes and you realize you have.
Forgiving others, does not always equal trusting them again, you just forgive them for the hurt the caused you.
When you do this, you start to move forward.

When anyone says, "yes, it is that simple," it's NEVER that simple for the person who actually has to take the action.

if you cant forgive yourself or another a good place to start is to ask yourself why you cant.

If it sounds too simple - or too good to be true - it probably is not true (or that simple).

When someone says "it's not that simple" They don't know what they are talking about.

I'm not pessimistic... I am a realist. The thing is, it's not simply a matter of turning on and off emotions and then mindlessly moving on. Sure, in the short-term you can do that along with denying your feelings and pretending you are not hurt. I am already an expert at that. But, at some point those repressed feelings surface and will no longer be denied. At that point, simplicity turns into a living hell of sad desperation.

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What's the question?

embrace it ...

I caught my fiance in bed with another guy, I've been lied to cheated on and on and on. Don't tell me it's not easy. I felt the hurt but choose to move on. If you want to wallow in your pity, have at it. You can do what you want in your life/mind. You simply choose too. THAT IS SIMPLE. It will be a long and hard road if you listen to people like these with their pessimistic attitudes. No road is long and hard if you don't make it so.

@MarcusWelby any suggestions on how to accept this and move forward?

2 + 2 is 4. You mean that's not simple or true. You logic is simple, that's for sure true.