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Why do people expect family members to be close just because they're family?

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Because we tend to think of our own normal as everyone's normal. That's my explanation - I know that all families are not close. Mine is dysfunctional enough that I realize many people are not close with their family members.

Itsjustme · 26-30, F

@hlpflwthat It's so crazy to think my mom and aunt were close but i dont know my aunt well at all. I barely know my grandparents despite the christmases ive spent there. The most surprising thing is that all it takes is a little argument and boom! Your kids dont know their cousins.

hlpflwthat · M

My cousin's daughter has not been on speaking terms with her family since a wedding this summer. My cousin's husband was killed in an accident couple weeks ago. His last words spoken with/to/from his eldest daughter were hurtful and bitter. We think there is plenty of time. Truth is, there is never enough time.

I'd add that it's never too late to improve relationships. Best to you!

Itsjustme · 26-30, F

@hlpflwthat that a very positive way to think about it :) that sucks that had to be his last words to her though. :(

hlpflwthat · M

Sadly, it was her words to him that were nasty. And she'd ignored a few of his phone calls and attempts to get over the whole issue. But yeah ... sometimes we don't get any do-over.

Itsjustme · 26-30, F

@hlpflwthat :( all we can do is try to guide and teach our future generations to do better.