Should you give up all your secrets?

I have a friend who was divorced after 9 years of marriage and two kids. A year passed, then he and the ex-wife reconciled and decided to remarry. A few days before the wedding she said to him, "This is our new start, no more secrets. Is there anything I dont know?"

My friend said he was all in and feeling safe, so he confessed something he did during the year they were divorced. Nothing illegal, just out of the box. It was nothing she would have learned without his confession, or that he planned to repeat.
She was very thrown off by this, and admitted it was something she wasn't sure if she could accept, but she would try. They remarried anyway and went on to have two more children, but after five years of both struggling, the wife decided she could not get over his secret. They divorced again!

Are some secrets better left unsaid?🤔

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Ingwe · F

a secret like that..you have to share and take the fallout
it was a huge thing ...silly nonsense you can keep to yourself

looking at the comments
seems like people live in the dark and keep their dirty there

EmilyEdith · 56-60, F

@Ingwe
well, kinda!

I understand what you're saying about honesty. In this situation, the woman said she needed honesty, so the man was honest. No one felt better, both people were hurt. The marriage imploded, and we KNOW divorce sucks for kids.

This was kind of an adventure he had during the year he was a free agent. It would not have come to light without honesty. Looking at what honesty did in this situation. Was it worth that price?

Are any of our memories just for us?

Ingwe · F

@EmilyEdith a relationship holding lies are not a healthy one..better it was out

lies/secrets eat away at a person
and it would've reared it's head in others ways

EmilyEdith · 56-60, F

@Ingwe possibly.