I Wonder

How easily the fruits and veggies get cut! They don't resist, they don't oppose. Coz that's how they are made, soft, cutable, eatable.. Sounds a bit absurd lol, but while slicing them I was wondering..
How often do we resist things and situations and people and opinions! How often do we oppose.. How often sometimes instead of allowing life to show us a way, we stay stubborn thinking our path is right or good or the only way.. Doesn't that make us cold-hearted? What if we didn't resist life, allowing it to happen and stayed open to situations and things and people and opinions! We don't need to stay cold or bitter towards life even if we've experienced it the other way round. What if we stayed even a little bit open?
Sometimes, flowers grow even on the barest and hardest of walls through the tiniest of cracks..
:)

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Alphaman223

I find that I'm guilty of this. So much energy has been put into not being hurt again that maybe I hurt. I find I usually think people have it in for me.

This is, of course, not healthy and while it's not an every day occurrence it's something about myself that needs changing.

I don't want to be soft, but I do want to be more pliable. Meanwhile still maintaining my sense of self while allowing experiences to shape my decision making, not necessarily just lock things out.

ethereal · F

Softness is not always required, pliability and flexibility is what i prefer too. Being open to trusting people or situations takes a lot of courage and i understand that it's hard, so i keep taking one step at a time. :)

Alphaman223

One step at a time is good. I struggle because I don't find people in general worthy of trust. Trust is a real commitment that requires integrity equally in the things you do that no one sees as well as the things they do. And it is totally reliant on the truth. This is where my struggle lies for I take this very seriously. I want those in my life to trust that I am trustworthy. But at the same time when I let them down I'm no less of a friend than I was when I was there for them in the ways they needed

ethereal · F

Well, they should understand that we are all humans. sometimes we let down each other, we make mistakes. It had been hard for me to trust people too, but it has been easier now, sometimes i still struggle though but i know that these struggles would pass. They don't last much, so i let these struggles and emotions come and go. Trusting few people on ep and opening up has helped me a lot, so has expressing it all out here by writing. I hope you do find and meet trustworthy people. ^^

Alphaman223

Yes we all need grace.

Thank you for your kind words. As much as I want to give up on it sometimes that's just not in my dna lol.

kasiyat

Sorry to interrupt the conversation here. If at this stage you ask me if trusting is ok, is say no. I think the mechanism is wired inside us... To trust our not to. Sometimes, i think it's pretty ok to just not trust others. You'll save yourself a lot of unnecessary hurt.

ethereal · F

I agree with you, i usually go with my intuition whether the other person is trustworthy or not and most of the times, i meet people who are.