There is this girl who insists on staying engaged to my trash relative due to the fact that she thinks we are connected

And I can help secure her family stability.

I empathize with her but I also think she is being selfish and cowardly.

I have so much to deal with as it is since the fires, psychologically and else. I feel broken and traumatized.

One other reason she insists to stay with him is shame. She doesn't want people to badmouth her for having a failed long term relationship with a guy as a Muslim. Society doesn't look kindly to women who have had a history.

But I don't want to deal with her whining after she has had bunch of kids with him, about how unfit he is as a father and a provider. It is far worse to have kids in that environment than deal with a social backlash for effing around.

He is a loser. She is choosing a loser.

A loser and a burden.

She can just emphasize his many eff ups as reason.

I have told her again and again that I am fed up with him. I wish he stayed in jail. I don't want to even hear about his problems. Don't want people telling me about it. She needs to learn to rely on her own until the right guy comes along who can be trusted to entertain her dependency.

Two incredibly dependent people magnifying their problems is no relationship.

He is very manipulative to be able to brainwash her to think I am going to support him or her.

I can't even support my own mental health right now.