What was a big catalyst in your life that made it change?

In seven decades there were more than one.
Some of them...

To become an adult by when had 16, far from my family of origin.
To studdy Sciences and Tech.
To meet and keep my splendid group of lifetime friends.
To survive a dictatorship that killed 1 of each 1000 here.
To have a 1st marriage that if had been just a little better would qualify as a disaster.
To experience war.
To joyfully become a father.
To become a single parent and the only available one and rise my kids on said conditions.
The intense experiences of my professsional life.
To find the love of my life in almost my sixties.
To lost her.
Some other stuff.

Losing my job and a great love at the same time.

Going back to college when I was 30.

Switching to an IT career
Developing the relationship with the woman who became my wife.

I think self-change is the biggest delusion.
Yes, our objectives change.
But our core is our core.
Our inner-child is who we are, and the delusion is all of the lives our inner-child chooses to explore.
I don't doubt that wisdom can be gleaned, or intuition sharpened.

I think my biggest question at this point, is how deep our "inner-child" runs.
If someone has a stroke, or suffers a major head injury, or has a tumor; it changes who they appear to be in some cases. But from our conception, our genetics automatically configured themselves.

I wonder where the instinctive biology ends, and where the self begins.

can you give more context?

People telling me to stop dancing like nobody's watching, because people were

A force was applied

Time!