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What would you do? [I Ask Questions]

So a relative wanted me to do something. Once they told me the instructions of what they wanted me to do, they went on telling me what they were going to do. Now I thought that I got it all down in my head and went on to do the task but partially forgot half of what I had to do because the relative was rambling about their own task. So I went back and asked to double check. The relative got mad at me for asking again. Then I mention to them that they said in past when I don't understand something or miss it to ask again. So that is what I did....I asked again. So I mentioned well if you're going to get mad about me asking again just to clarify then if anything you can do it yourself. What the relative don't realize is that when you give someone else orders and also mention your own orders to the person without giving the person a chance to write theirs down or grasp it in they got their orders and possibly your orders all jumbled up in their head.I've already found a solution the relative could of doubled check to make sure I understood or I write it all down. I didn't get a chance to write it all down and I thought I had it all processed. Anyways what would you do?
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Mamapolo2016 · F Best Comment
If you are gracious enough to agree to help someone with a task, then they should be gracious enough to write it down or at the very least repeat the instructions until you are comfortable. It's THEIR task you're trying to get right.

Unless this person has some issue like dementia that prevents them from behaving reasonably, I would suggest they either calm down and give the clarification I asked for, or find somebody else to do it.
OpalFlower · 36-40, F
@Mamapolo2016 Boom there you go! Hit the nail right on the head! The relative is old and I believe that they have a slight case of dementia. When she gives me orders...she likes to ramble on about what she has to do or shares some drawn out story. When she rambles on then stops I go do the task then question wait she wanted me to do this or that like this or like that etc. But yea I tried to ask for a clarification but instead of giving it they just went on saying I don't listen and rambled on. So I said what I had to say about if I can't get a clarification just do it yourself. Then they told me to shut the hell up... lol
@OpalFlower Can you get this person to see a doctor? There's a difference between being old and impossible and being old and sick.

Alzheimer's is maddening and heartbreaking to those around the person, but it's usually fatal to the person.
OpalFlower · 36-40, F
@Mamapolo2016 Well the relative is seeking some type of service like therapy and I think they are prescribed medicine but they don't take them. I can try but knowing them they going to say "God is my doctor."
@OpalFlower All you can do is all you can do, and have a clear conscience. ❤️❤️