Good things come to those who wait...

@Poppies My shoes split on the soles after 8 years... I started by telling soon to be ex that I need new shoes for this reason - his response has been to argue that there's nothing wrong with my shoes, then he accepts that they are splitting, then he wants me to wear a pair of trainers that I got from my mother's house (they have plastic soles and are no good for walking on ice)...

I can't get to the shop alone because he'd been denying me pain meds for two weeks - so my pain was out of control. I also collapse if I walk "too far". Getting from the closest bus stop to the shop and back home by myself is "too far".

He refused to take me in the car and told me to order my shoes on Amazon on his phone... which is locked behind a pin code that I don't know and he won't unlock it for me. I can't access his Amazon on desktop because I had to turn on 2 factor authentication for him after his account was hacked.

He expects me to try and order them on an Echo Show - which has a smaller screen than a tablet.

Add in the financial abuse that he puts me through (I haven't had any money from him for months now) - and I have no shoes.

@olderuncle944 Yes, there are... mostly for hearing women.

I have a hearing impairment which means that my ability to hear can fluctuate from day to day - given that I can't guarantee that I will be able to hear a fire alarm at night... I need a wardened refuge.

The problem here is that wardened refuges are fewer and further between - so they're often full when I try to get a place.

They refuse to put me in a regular refuge because of the danger of me not hearing the fire alarm and the authority here won't stump up for emergency accommodation for me - despite the fact that I can't stay because of the abuse (and the fact that I have no drinking water or anywhere to bathe now - which makes this place unfit for human habituation).

Oh, yes... there's also the fact that soon to be ex has taken to physically abusing me whenever I try to leave him now, too.