I Will Answer Any Question You Dare Ask

couple times a week probably -- 3-4

DO you make your wife aware of your activities, or keep it a secret. OH does she read this?

Depends which activities you mean. Do I tell her every time I whack off? No. And she doesn't tell me when she takes care of business, either. Does she know I'm here? Yes. Does she have her own profile? No. Does she know other "adult" sites I visit? Probably not all of them, but that's not a matter of secrecy - it's a matter of me having browser ADD and always having a gajillion tabs open at once.

Are you including your wife in any sexual escapades that come along?

If she wants to be. She knows of all of them - no cheating. She opts whether to participate, and she can opt to request I not, for any reason or no reason. And the same in return.

Sounds like an open relationship that you are controlling. Has SHE ever asked to steer the boat?

Open, yes. That I control? No. Not sure what you mean by "steer the boat."

Being in control of the relationship.. You already answered that y'all switch.. or share...

She's either sub or "neutral" depending on her mood. I can be sub, Dom, or neutral depending on mood and the person. We make decisions such as who to invite into our bed together, but I do most of the "leg work" of chatting with people and such. She has said no to people I've suggested in the past, and that's perfectly fine.

Sounds a lot like the "hotwife" marriage I had for 23 yrs. Except for me, SHE wanted to choose who and where she was with new lovers. I was the back-up, available just in case she needed me. After she decided he or she was a "Keeper" she would invite them into our bedroom. I found guys that were interested and she would interview them.. She used a lot of folks who worked for her as possibilities.