I feel better…

My tests are officially fully negative now I’m okay I just needed a day/night to cry about it I know things happen and it’s okay

But for the record just because I have children already doesn’t mean I can’t be sad about miscarrying even if it happened almost immediately after finding out..

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

As I have gotten older, and my wife and I have dealt with various tragedies in our family, I have given some thought to people who say seemingly insensitive things like "well, at least you already have children."

If someone is sick, people say "I hope you/they get better soon." But if someone is dying, they don't have the words with which to respond. They might even say, "I hope she gets better" (as someone said to me when I said my mother was dying) because they don't have the language for consoling someone when there is no happy ending.

Even now, as I am trying to end this with a response to you in light of what you have experienced, I find myself hesitating and backspacing as I try to say the right thing. I know what happened was painful, and I will not try to minimize that. I offer my condolences for your loss.