I don't think anyone here is all of what they truly are. We are all selective in what we show.
Some even try be what they are not, or what they imagine they want to be.
As to what we attract, well that's a kind of equation we cant control all the variables of:
- part of that equation is us
- past of that is mood
- part of that equation is trolls
- part of that equation is illusionists
- and part is genuine people
... it's a mixed bag🤷♀