Understanding love

My experience was (near to) the opposite one.
When I found love in my mature days I could see more cleary what in my past was not.
Of course this was my personal path of life without denying any other one.

Or maybe we knew what love is or supposed to be to know that something is not love at all?

[c=BF0000]so we shd start with what's not love then[/c]