A personal question

I cannot help it...this is an important one. My whole life I suffered from low self-esteem...from childhood. People told me i could not love others until I loved myself (I argued against that for so long). But tantra helped me change all that...to love myself (first sexually...) and that grew into love for a partner, then others, then all people, all life, nature, and the universe...but yes, it did all start with love for myself. You seem to have an advantage over some of us. Love yourself!! The expand on that!!! I also discovered that sometimes criticism of others or a partner was actually self-criticism of something in myself I did not like...