Feeling like the black sheep [I Am A Grateful Memeber Of Alanon]

I love my home group and that they're all so positive, but yet they're all so positive. I'm feeling like I can't relate at times to an almost Pollyanna atmosphere. I hope I get to where everyone else is.

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

DrWatson · 70-79, M

This is a problem with a lot of support groups -- pressure on everyone to be upbeat so as not to "bring others" down.

I attend a group for a very different problem, and I am grateful that we can each be wherever we are that week, emotion-wise. I know some people have a group that they consider their home, but attend another where they can get something they can't get from their home group. Have you found such a place, where you can share negative feelings freely?

If not, or even if so, SW might be a place you can do that, once you have found people you trust.

abooklover · 56-60, F

@DrWatson I've just recently returned from a long hiatus from SW I've been here a long time. I'm searching for other Alanon groups. I don't think my home group is a good fit. Thanks so much for commenting.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@abooklover In that case....welcome back, and all the best in your search :)

abooklover · 56-60, F

@DrWatson Thank you, I appreciate it.