Why is it always so far?

You don't find happiness, you create it. It's all brain chemicals, man. You gotta get positive things going in order to trick your brain into expecting positive results. Research has shown that even the simple act of smiling is enough to generate happy feelings.

This might sound pat, but it's not far, it's in fact the nearest thing, and I'd like to echo what TinyViolins said.

Same here. I hope you find some.

Its when you stop trying, is when the love bug finds you

You're overlooking it while looking for the next best thing.