For those who view feminism as mostly negative, did the movement begin with good intentions?

I am not a feminist because I don't identify with most movements because people will assume many things about what I believe that I probably don't even agree with. I believe that women are smart and strong and are also different than men and occupy different roles in the family and community. But, why is feminism this hot button issue for men lately? Why is the narrative so negative? I've never even hung out with any hard core feminists so why are men so focused on this as a major issue? Has it really been that bad for our society if so why do you feel that way?