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I'm starting to grow really irate with some male coworkers

And I am getting bad at hiding it ,nor do I care to hide it much. Basically I know of a few coworkers that had a romantic interest in me ,some were more polite at expressing it and basically respected my boundaries when I didn't reciprocate. Others grew resentful and even more persistent ,these I have a lot of problems with. One particularly ,who regularly schedules outings and privately messages me about joining , complained to me after I didn't reply or open his message , and 'threatened' to never privately message me again to which I responded positively to ,because I do not wish for him to privately message me ,especially when we can conversate any issues at work or at the work group chat. He however did end up messaging me privately again about an outing ,and I declined ,and once more he threw a temper tantrum. Now that exact same scenario happened with another coworker too ,who however instead of throwing a temper tantrum kept insisting on trying to persuade me to come out ,or would aggressively hit on me at work . Yesterday night ,the toddler man ,seemingly over his latest tantrum , came in after my shift while I was sitting in the main office waiting for my Uber , and seeing I was on my phone/tired/txting etc proceeded to start infantilising me , asking me if I am ok ,persisting to know what is up even though I replied that I was fine , asking me if I'm hungry /thirsty /asking how I would get home tonight etc and then again growing resentful at me for being short in my answers and trying to once again set boundaries . I honestly can say that working with men in my age range +10 yrs has almost always been unpleasant for that very reason , and they are often members of the company that have been there longer /have more experience /hold a 'higher' corporate position (usually managerial), whereas the females notice that behaviour and try to protect each other and/or offer an outlet .
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Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Yeah that's weird. It's a boundary issue a lot of people have unfortunately. I work with 90% female staff in my work and I'm not weird with them like that 🤷 I know how awkward it is when people hit on you in work amd youre not interested or just there to work.

I was getting sexually harassed by an older woman there for a couple months and I think she either realized I was annoyed or got spoken to by the manager about it.
@Ryannnnnn gross,especially as older ppl they should be aware enough to not begin anything like that in the first place
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@PepsiColaP I've seen worse, a manager asked me if another colleague was gonna fuck one of the girls who was in the room at the time so she could hear. I said no comment mate and I quit there after a week.
@Ryannnnnn vile
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@PepsiColaP also has a girl ask me out within 5 minutes of being hired and she was really overweight so I avoided the question (no hate but not my thing) and it was so awkward every day.