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I'm starting to grow really irate with some male coworkers

And I am getting bad at hiding it ,nor do I care to hide it much. Basically I know of a few coworkers that had a romantic interest in me ,some were more polite at expressing it and basically respected my boundaries when I didn't reciprocate. Others grew resentful and even more persistent ,these I have a lot of problems with. One particularly ,who regularly schedules outings and privately messages me about joining , complained to me after I didn't reply or open his message , and 'threatened' to never privately message me again to which I responded positively to ,because I do not wish for him to privately message me ,especially when we can conversate any issues at work or at the work group chat. He however did end up messaging me privately again about an outing ,and I declined ,and once more he threw a temper tantrum. Now that exact same scenario happened with another coworker too ,who however instead of throwing a temper tantrum kept insisting on trying to persuade me to come out ,or would aggressively hit on me at work . Yesterday night ,the toddler man ,seemingly over his latest tantrum , came in after my shift while I was sitting in the main office waiting for my Uber , and seeing I was on my phone/tired/txting etc proceeded to start infantilising me , asking me if I am ok ,persisting to know what is up even though I replied that I was fine , asking me if I'm hungry /thirsty /asking how I would get home tonight etc and then again growing resentful at me for being short in my answers and trying to once again set boundaries . I honestly can say that working with men in my age range +10 yrs has almost always been unpleasant for that very reason , and they are often members of the company that have been there longer /have more experience /hold a 'higher' corporate position (usually managerial), whereas the females notice that behaviour and try to protect each other and/or offer an outlet .
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Dshhh · M
Consider this approach. Most men are entirely clueless, and can’t even read your mood. So when someone is coming onto you that way? Do you have to say very clearly I am not interested in that with you. Please don’t ever bring it up again.
@Dshhh you are very right about having that approach. I think they do understand however I'm not interested they just do not respect it enough as it is atm
Dshhh · M
@PepsiColaP Yes and without the respect they’re going to keep on knocking at your door you’ve actually got to be hard with them nowI was like that too, when I was maybe 14! Sadly many men will not respect any woman, so be hard-core, I don’t know what country you live in or what company you work for but you have to bring them up short no loud and clear. And then, don’t even talk to him for a while.