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Skippy the Wonder Dog

I once knew a woman named Lois. To this day, I don’t know if Lois had a mental health diagnosis, but I do know she was possibly the most bitterly disappointed person I ever knew. I never knew why, and I still don’t.

Lois’ husband died a few months before I became what we called “choir director” at a local church. Both “choir” and “director” were euphemistic. Of the dozen choir members, not one was under 65 years old. One of them was Lois, and I strongly suspected her husband was happy to go.

One of her greatest joys was causing upset and havoc of any kind. Carl, who had sung in the choir for thirty years, was losing his battle with cancer and had not attended church for some months. Since our choir was as low in funding as it was in talent, we didn’t have enough hymnals. Lois proposed we should ask for Carl’s hymnal back. “He’s never going to use it again.”

Appalled, I said sternly, “Nobody is to ask for the hymnal back. Not under any circumstances.”

Of course, Lois trotted over to Carl’s house and did just that, and it resulted in anger, hurt, and outrage. And rightly so.

Lois was a lit fuse, and explosions were common. I was young, with more patience than I now possess, and since I could not control her, I befriended her. Nobody else was trying anymore. For starters, I invited her out to lunch. By the time the bill arrived, it was accompanied by the restaurant’s request that we not go back there again.

BUT, during lunch, when Lois wasn’t complaining or offending everybody in a three mile radius, we talked a little. She mentioned that she’d like to have a dog, the closest thing to positivity I’d seen in Lois. I said vaguely, “Maybe we can find you one.”

Her requirements were specific. She wanted a house-trained small white neutered male dog who didn’t cost any adoption fees, and wasn’t going to die anytime soon. She would name him Skippy.

Oh, well, it was just an idea.

That was Wednesday. Friday night my daughter and I drove to my mother’s house for the weekend. Mom mentioned a friend of hers was quite ill, and was looking for a home for her dog because she could no longer care for it. At first I wasn’t even listening as Mom described the situation, but I started to focus when Mom mentioned how cute and well-behaved this dog was.

I asked a lot of questions, including how I would go about meeting this dog. That night we went to visit. The dog that Lois had specced out greeted us with wagging tail. Toy poodle. White. Neutered male. Three years old.

I called Lois: “I found Skippy. Do you want him?”

She quibbled, as was her style, but finally agreed to at least see him. Pretty sure I was going to end up with another dog, I put almost-Skippy into the car along with my daughter and drove the 200 miles home.

Lois and now-actual-Skippy fell in love and I got to see it. Lois was never going to be nice, or even cordial, but she was better. And I have never seen a dog cared for any better than Skippy.

She had somebody to love, and somebody who loved her back.

Need I add that Lois never said “Thank you”? 😂😂😂
WillaKissing · 56-60
The Lord works his wonders through the worst of situations, and if we stop and listen to his voice we learn and grow and are able to help other's no matter how rough they maybe.

You were the envoy of God's hand to try and befriend a rough soul, and in doing so relieved a seriously ill person of a serious concern/burden for their pet, and brought that pet to a place of love and acceptance with a rough soul to soften her heart with the love of a poodle that deserved to find the love it needed as its previous owner could not provide it any longer.

God does his wonderous works if we listen and follow his teachings.
@WillaKissing I had never thought about this incident as you portray it. It did end up as not one solution but three.
WillaKissing · 56-60
@Mamapolo2016 Yes it did and thank you for all your efforts and noticing like I did that you truly positively affected three lives besides your own.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
I can only imagine what that lunch was like! 😄

But good for you for befriending someone who was unfriendable. And it is not lost on me that this is someone you knew through your church -- you showed what "living the Gospel message" is really about.
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@Mamapolo2016 Wow. That is mind boggling.

And I just learned a racial slur I had never heard before. 🙄
@DrWatson I’ve read it in books. I didn’t expect ever to hear it live. Here’s what I took away from this whole experience. A variation on “you can’t fire me, I quit”,

I think Lois - for whatever reasons - did not believe she could be loved. To avoid the rejection, she acted out in a way to prove she was unlovable.
bowman81 · M
@Mamapolo2016 🤦🏻
Piper · 61-69, F
Lois reminds me of someone who was an unavoidable, sort of marginal part of my life for over twenty years. I enjoyed reading your compellingly written recollection, and agree with what ElwoodBlues said. I noticed years ago, what a talented writer you are.

It's comforting knowing in this real life story, that you kept an eye on how Skippy was being treated...just in case.
Piper · 61-69, F
@Mamapolo2016 People like Lois and the person she reminds me of, I've noticed, tend to conflate their often callous insensitivity...with [i]honesty[/i].
@Piper Exactly. The scorched earth nature of ‘honesty.” Also, it implies that the speaker’s truth is the only truth and entirely ignores that most people are not interested in their opinion, which is what they mean by “honest.”
Piper · 61-69, F
bowman81 · M
I sometimes wonder what happened to people to cause them to be so nasty and bitter. I don't spend a lot of time worrying, blow them off and avoid them as quickly as I can. There are better things to worry about. I don't have the energy to go tilting at windmills.
4thdimensiondream · 61-69, M
Glad it’s working out. I know people like Lois and i have to say I would have been hesitant to try and help her and would have been worried for the dog too. Good job!
@4thdimensiondream I never saw any physical violence from her. I did think about that, and kept a close eye on them for a while.
That is a TERRIFIC story – worthy of The Moth on NPR!!
@ElwoodBlues Thank you, my friend. It was amazing to watch.
chuck7882 · 61-69, M
Dogs are magical
@chuck7882 The story in a nutshell!
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
You’re very nice to have become her friend. She likely never had any loving or positive role models in her life.
@Jenny1234 I really don’t know why she was the way she was.
Fluffybull · F
Well done you! 👏👍I would have avoided her like the plague! 🤭
@Fluffybull It was like angelic intervention.

 
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