Having Someone To Be Your Mentor Is Very Important

I recently saw a post on TikTok where 2 Christian content creators are talking through a livestream on that platform, and I was shocked by how someone viewed mentorship.

For context:
A guy asked a lady the question "Do you have a mentor?", and the lady said "The Lord Jesus", and I believe that she is indeed correct. The Lord is our number one mentor, but what made me curious is that who makes the lady accountable for her own actions in this world? Who tells her when her actions are already not the right ways to act? Yes, the Lord is a mentor because He teaches us what is right and what is wrong, but in the context of the world, I believe that the Lord uses people in our lives to help us to be a better version of ourselves.

I have someone in my life who I see as a mentor. Honestly, this made me realize the importance of having a mentor. This made me appreciate my mentor even more because my mentor has guided me through situations that if I did not seek his guidance, I would have probably made the wrong decisions in those certain situations. My mentor also saw my potential and helped me to realize how important it is to be confident enough and in a good way as a person. We might not admit it, but we all need a mentor at some point in our lives, and I am blessed to have my mentor

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ArishMell · 70-79, M

I understand a religious person regarding his or her deity as a "Mentor Spiritual", but suggesting "we all need" a "Mentor Temporal" worries me.

Most of us occasionally need or want specific help or support, but wanting a personal "mentor" generally, whatever the definition and remit, suggests lacking self-confidence and the ability to think and choose for oneself.

It reminds me of the 1960s when American films and TV shows gave the impression that fashionable Americans retained "therapists" (clinical psychologists) to keep them "happy and well-adjusted". If they could afford it. Your call for a real-life "mentor" to think for you, seems similar.

Do "we all need" a "mentor"....? Of course not. Most grown-ups manage perfectly well without. We judge whether to seek specific advice where and when necessary, but certainly do not want continual supervision.

JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F

@ArishMell well, I respect that, but my point is, there are times when we do need a mentor. I don't know what you mean exactly by "continual supervision", and I agree with you, but at the same time, I didn't say that having a mentor means constant or "continual supervision". My point is that we need to have a mentor at some point of our lives, not constant supervision. Yes, adults or grown ups are mostly doing well in life without any mentors, but just because they are an adult doesn't mean they no longer need occasional guidance. No hate, just explaining my point

ArishMell · 70-79, M

@JesusIsWithMe Thank you for clarifying. It would seem now that we pretty well agree!

JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F

@ArishMell may I ask a question about your opinion in mentorship earlier? No hate, just genuine curiosity

ArishMell · 70-79, M

@JesusIsWithMe You may! :)

JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F

@ArishMell just wanted to clarify that when you said that having or wanting a mentor means lack of self-confidence, but don't you think that having or wanting a mentor can also help build self-confidence? Just asking :)

ArishMell · 70-79, M

@JesusIsWithMe Very fair question. Sorry, I had somehow read your original post as a mentor basically taking responsibility for you.

Yes, you are of course right in that a good mentor or advisor can help you build self-confidence.

I am not sure why that had not occurred to me because I have had counselling to help me overcome problems in the past.

JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F

@ArishMell I have someone in my life, specifically in school who I see as a mentor, and this mentor that I'm talking about used to be one of my college instructors in 2025, and I understand why you think that, but I will never see mentorship as something that will take responsibility for me, but the reason why my mentor is someone whose guidance is who I genuinely seek advice from is because I believe that he can help me to see things in myself that I have not seen or considered, and that indeed happened, but that doesn't mean that I'm gonna ask or tell him to take responsibility for me. In fact, I need guidance from my mentor occasionally because I trust that he can guide me and teach me accountability for my decisions

ArishMell · 70-79, M

@JesusIsWithMe Thankyou. I wish you all success and a happy future!

JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F

@ArishMell thanks. I don't know why, but @Royricky09 still seem to not understand my point?