ArishMell · 70-79, M
I understand a religious person regarding his or her deity as a "Mentor Spiritual", but suggesting "we all need" a "Mentor Temporal" worries me.
Most of us occasionally need or want specific help or support, but wanting a personal "mentor" generally, whatever the definition and remit, suggests lacking self-confidence and the ability to think and choose for oneself.
It reminds me of the 1960s when American films and TV shows gave the impression that fashionable Americans retained "therapists" (clinical psychologists) to keep them "happy and well-adjusted". If they could afford it. Your call for a real-life "mentor" to think for you, seems similar.
Do "we all need" a "mentor"....? Of course not. Most grown-ups manage perfectly well without. We judge whether to seek specific advice where and when necessary, but certainly do not want continual supervision.
Most of us occasionally need or want specific help or support, but wanting a personal "mentor" generally, whatever the definition and remit, suggests lacking self-confidence and the ability to think and choose for oneself.
It reminds me of the 1960s when American films and TV shows gave the impression that fashionable Americans retained "therapists" (clinical psychologists) to keep them "happy and well-adjusted". If they could afford it. Your call for a real-life "mentor" to think for you, seems similar.
Do "we all need" a "mentor"....? Of course not. Most grown-ups manage perfectly well without. We judge whether to seek specific advice where and when necessary, but certainly do not want continual supervision.
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JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F
@ArishMell I have someone in my life, specifically in school who I see as a mentor, and this mentor that I'm talking about used to be one of my college instructors in 2025, and I understand why you think that, but I will never see mentorship as something that will take responsibility for me, but the reason why my mentor is someone whose guidance is who I genuinely seek advice from is because I believe that he can help me to see things in myself that I have not seen or considered, and that indeed happened, but that doesn't mean that I'm gonna ask or tell him to take responsibility for me. In fact, I need guidance from my mentor occasionally because I trust that he can guide me and teach me accountability for my decisions
ArishMell · 70-79, M
@JesusIsWithMe Thankyou. I wish you all success and a happy future!
JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F
@ArishMell thanks. I don't know why, but @Royricky09 still seem to not understand my point?
FreddieUK · 70-79, M
Very wise to make ourselves accountable to someone. Mentoring is not about doing what someone else says, but rather listening and weighing a more experienced person's life journey to help your own thinking. I am very suspicious of 'lone wolves' in the Christian life.
JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F
@FreddieUK we need mentors at some point of our lives
Kevin1990 · M
Who is your mentor?
JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F
@Kevin1990 a former instructor that I had
Not necessarily
JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F
@Royricky09 but did you read my reply to the comment? I am not saying that we all need supervision all the time. I am saying that even adults, need occasional guidance at some point of life. Is there anything wrong to this view of having a mentor?
@JesusIsWithMe all I can say mentor is not the right word for what you are trying to say
JesusIsWithMe · 18-21, F
@Royricky09 then what do you call it? I don't understand where you're coming from?