Am i expecting too much?
Just want to be someone's only talking stage. I'm old fashioned, i dont agree with dating more than 1 person either. I'm mentally preparing myself for when they choose someone else.
36-40, F
RogueLodyte · 61-69, M
This is one of the biggest reasons I am not in a relationship. This is what I am. I am totally 100% loyal, committed, and interested in only ONE woman.
So what's the problem you may ask? The PROBLEM is that I expect the same from my lady. When SHE expects, wants, and receives 100% loyalty, it's because she "loves" me.
But if I expect the same as what I offer and give, I am possessive, insecure, a narcissist, and a control freak. So I choose to do without the BS. The arguing, the hypocrisy, and the double standards. We live in an extremely self centered society. A relationship which you describe takes TWO, and two unselfish people getting together these days is rare...or yes, unrealistic.
And a sure fire eventual death to most relationships is "girls night out" or "guys night out". Nothing good can come of it.
So what's the problem you may ask? The PROBLEM is that I expect the same from my lady. When SHE expects, wants, and receives 100% loyalty, it's because she "loves" me.
But if I expect the same as what I offer and give, I am possessive, insecure, a narcissist, and a control freak. So I choose to do without the BS. The arguing, the hypocrisy, and the double standards. We live in an extremely self centered society. A relationship which you describe takes TWO, and two unselfish people getting together these days is rare...or yes, unrealistic.
And a sure fire eventual death to most relationships is "girls night out" or "guys night out". Nothing good can come of it.
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
@RogueLodyte i agree with you there. One works party and boom gone. Ive heard stories.
RogueLodyte · 61-69, M
@PaleandPolluted Have you ever seen a table full of women out on "girls night out - no men allowed"? Their table is surrounded by predatory men buying them drinks all night long. Do the women chase them away and say "no men allowed"? Nope.
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
@RogueLodyte actually i think some do.
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
I can understand if they by chance meet someone else who draws their eye but seeking others out bothers me.
Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69
PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F
@Shybutwilling2bfriends i spoke to a guy on a dating site once who angrily asked who else i was talking to after knowing him 2 days 🤣
Shybutwilling2bfriends · 61-69
@PaleandPolluted thats insane
Captain · 61-69, M
It depends if they are also dating someone else